"The difference between the most dissimilar characters, between a philosopher and a common street porter, for example, seems to arise not so much from nature, as from habit, custom, and education."
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How to Be Appropriately Pushy
One of the things that's often hard to know is how and when to be pushy appropriately. In these hardscrabble times, perfectly polite people don't stand much of a chance of getting what they want. However, not enough can be said for making yourself known ...
Learn to feel good about yourself
It happened to you more than once to meet a person and before getting to actually know the person, to realize that you simply couldn't get along well with him or her, no matter how hard you tried. There are a lot of ancient believes, which say that people ...
Stay focused on your diet!
Who hasn't been on a diet before? Probably, at a certain point in time all of us have. Surprisingly, only some of us got what we expected after weeks or months of severe diet. The question is why does it not work for everybody? What does it take to get ...
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After the initial nervous breakdown, banging head on keyboard and brick wall (I suggest you restrain yourself from doing this - it hurts and leaves funny indentations in your forehead!) and sheer indignation of how could 'they' (whoever they are) think that? I calmed down and started dissecting each piece of information carefully.
Only the other day a very experienced IT professional friend of mine rang me to say my website had lots of meat but no sizzle. Well wasn't that great news? Although this was constructive feedback, it still managed to take the wind out of my sails for a short while.
I've since taken this feedback onboard and am tossing around a few ideas here and there so I can give my website that much needed zazazoom it's meant to have!
In the past I've also requested feedback when job applications have been unsuccessful so I can learn to do better next time.
Sometimes people will ask for feedback when what they're really after is approval, especially when we think we're doing a great job. When they hear what they'd rather not they go out and kick the cat, dog, or punching bag, whatever is handy, have a few drinks, or telephone all their friends.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
Eleanor Roosevelt (1884-1962)
To receive honest, constructive feedback is much like receiving a gift, whether we think so or not at the time. The challenge is to receive feedback with an open mind and learn from it, and disregard our natural instinct to defend our selves or our actions.
On the other side of the coin it also takes true courage to give good, constructive feedback for fear of a negative response or reprisal, even if the feedback was requested.
Below are 10 straightforward tips for coping with feedback:
** Work on the attitude of feedback is fun, enlightening and a great learning tool as opposed to feedback is scary and to be avoided at all costs.
** Feedback is someone else's opinion however there may be an element of truth in there even if the size of an atom.
** Consider the experience level of the person giving feedback (did you really ask your partner for feedback?).
** Allow the other person to complete what they're saying; wait at least 3 seconds before responding as opposed to reacting.
** Centre and balance yourself by taking several slow deep breaths before the feedback discussion takes place.
** Never take it personally.
** Employ the attitude that this is a learning experience, learn what you can from it, even if it means you've learned how not to give feedback.
** Be totally in the present moment. It's the best place to be for paying attention.
** Remember the reason you wanted this feedback.
** Finally, thank the person for their feedback (even though privately you may not agree with it). The fact they gave it to you gives you the option of choosing to act on it, consider it or simply just ignore it.
Receiving constructive feedback needn't be an anxiety filled experience. Having the attitude that feedback is a gift in disguise may be what will enable you to move mountains for you in the long term.
Now back to putting the zazazoom into my sizzleless website!
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